Posted: Wednesday August 16, 2006 9:51AM; Updated: Wednesday August 16, 2006 11:58AM
If this is your boyfriend's idol, you may have a problem on your hands.
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In your last Mailbag, you said you weren't much of a gambler. How would you feel about dating someone who gambled a lot? Would you not date someone if they bet on sports on a regular basis? I'm not talking a degenerate gambler, but someone who bet small amounts every week. -- Rich O'Malley, Astoria, N.Y.
If I am dating a man who won't take my phone calls because his bookie might call, remembers the game's spread but not his mother's birthday, and would pawn his kid brother just to make some extra cash ... there might be a problem. Sure, if he wins big we could live a long, happy life together somewhere in the south of France, but odds are greater you'll end up living in a cardboard box.
The absolute dealbreaker in dating one of these guys is when he goes to his girlfriend for funds. This is when you have to be the stronger person, ladies, and put your foot down. I don't care if he "almost had it last week, and this week is a sure thing."
Would you ever go on a reality show? You seem like you'd be perfect for Dancing with the Stars or Big Brother. -- James, Sacramento
I equate being on reality television to living in a fish bowl -- all these people can look in at you, see your every move and completely rob you of your privacy. Many times, when people are on reality television, it's to make a name for themselves. And while a few people manage to do so, most tend to fade into the background once the new batch of shows rolls out.
I don't mind shows like Dancing with the Stars or American Idol, or even America's Got Talent (who wouldn't tune in to hear David Hasselhoff's greatest hits live?), but the majority of reality shows are crap, with no real entertainment value other than watching girls backstab one another, college kids party or guys cheat on their girlfriends. If I wanted to see this, I would walk through any college dorm. So maybe if the show had an original concept, or showcased some kind of talent, I'd consider it, but will I go on one to find my future husband? Sorry, but you can keep the "rose."
My mom works for Ohio State and lets me have her football tickets. This year she got a pair for the full season, meaning I will be watching the Big Game from the Horseshoe. When I found out, my boyfriend called dibs on the extra ticket, and I was happy to agree. Well, he has since broken up with me. He should know that he is no longer granted that ticket, right? He did the dumping, so he should understand that, like an engagement ring, the ticket is once again mine. Or should I be nice and let him go since he will probably have to work if he doesn't have a ticket? -- Jillian, Columbus, Ohio
Your ex-boyfriend called dibs on the ticket when he was with you. Without getting into all the crazy laws that involve giving back engagement rings, you can choose to handle it one of two ways, depending on your current relationship status. If the two of you are still on speaking terms, you could always be the "bigger" person and pony up the extra ticket. However, if he is Jekyll and Hyde with you from day to day, your best bet would be to find a new "date" for the game. Personally, I would go with a girlfriend over a new flame. Odds are she is smaller than the seat's previous owner, so that means more leg room.
Dressing "cute" at a football game has brought you a lot of fame. I have a three-year-old daughter and another girl on the way. My wife is attractive and I'm relatively certain that my daughters will attract a lot of attention in about 12-15 years. I wanted to know what your advice would be to a dad who thinks his daughter is dressing too "sexy"? And what advice, as far as safety and security, do you have for girls who want to dress "cute"? I don't want to be a prude dad, but I also want my daughters to be safe and classy. -- Chris, Mililani, Hawaii
For this answer I have to defer to the smartest person I know (besides my mom, of course): my dad. Being the father of two girls who are polar opposites has taught him one thing about arguing with teenagers: DON'T. Sure, you could lay down the law, but in the end they are only going to fight you just because you said "no." You could try to get them to wear a burka over their swimsuits, but they will only find a way to change clothes once they leave your sight.
You can give them suggestions, however, to help them make their own decisions. Stress the appropriateness of clothing choice at particular events and hope she takes some cues from your wife. Remind her that if she chooses to wear certain outfits, she will have to understand the consequences that come with doing so, whether it be comments from other women who may not agree with her choice of clothing or unwanted attention from male admirers.