Posted: Wednesday November 8, 2006 10:31AM; Updated: Wednesday November 8, 2006 11:45AM
Jenn Sterger gave it 100 percent during her band geek days.
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The Pollyannas of the sports world will always find the bright side after a loss, and will say booing in any sense is wrong. To them I say, "Well, Pollyanna, do you drive four hours each way, sit for three-and-a-half hours in the blazing sun, spend a boatload on gas money and your kids tuition -- not to mention booster fees -- just to see your team blow another game against some second-rate football school? Didn't think so.
Maybe you can sleep soundly at night knowing your kids gave it their best if you are the coach of a youth soccer team, but we are talking collegiate level sports. College coaches aren't exactly getting paid nickels and dimes to do their jobs, and you aren't exactly paying a few bucks to get into the stadium and buy the overpriced food and merchandise. The only aspect of booing that sucks is when the jeering isn't intended for anyone in particular, or is not pronounced enough that the players on the field can discern who it's being directed at. So while it may be your right to boo, try to be a little more directive in your approach: For instance, try yelling "BOOOOO, [insert name of coach here]. Regardless, don't take it out on the players. They didn't call the play, they just executed it.
And while we're at it, let's keep the F-bombs and profanity to a minimum. You didn't have to wear earmuffs to the ballpark when you were younger, so why should other people's kids? Keep the criticism classy.
I've been seeing this great guy for three months. However, as things progress in our relationship, he's asked me several questions about my past "experiences." And he wants to know how many guys I've had these "experiences" with, I don't want to tell him. I don't see how it's relevant to our relationship. It's not like I've been with a ton of guys, but I've been with more than a couple. Should I tell him? Do you think he has a right to know? He's told me how many girls he's been with, but I don't really care. -- Stacey, Albany, N.Y.
If I learned anything in math, it's that I hate numbers, so why anyone would ever want to apply them to relationships baffles me. For men, the numbers game is just that: the more, the merrier. Even if they have seen more women than most gynecologists, that still does not in any way defame them or ruin their "date-ability." However, if a woman does the same, she is a "slut." It's just the rules of our society. A woman's number is a sensitive subject simply based on the way our society judges people. My opinion? 1+1=2, and that's all the numbers you need in a relationship. I personally don't want to know my man's number, simply because that was his past, and I am his future. As for your dating resume and your experience credentials, I don't think what you've done in the past is any of his business. Just tell him you test drove a few models before you found the right one.
Many of us "former" band geeks have turned out fine. But, how about posting a picture from your "band geek" days? -- David, Miami
Sure, why not? I'm not shy about sharing my band experiences. Band camp ones, however, are an entirely different beast. Just kidding.
Will you be at the Rutgers-Louisville game on Nov. 9? We would love to see you up here in Scarlet. -- Vito, Hoboken, N.J.
Finally, the Cowgirl has come BACK to Jersey. That's right, Rutgers. My Jersey-born Cowgirl Allison is returning to her roots for this Thursday's game against Louisville, and she is bringing yours truly along for the ride. Memo to the Rutgers' "Village People," who got unruly with me earlier this month: Be prepared to have your candy asses handed to you, because while the rest of the Scarlet Nation is cool, we still have beef to settle.
I was in a five-year relationship that ended just about a year ago. I was so comfortable being "out of the game" for so long that now when I want to talk to a girl, I get very self conscience. Any advice? -- Rob, New Jersey
Getting dumped is a pretty traumatic experience. I still remember the day my last true boyfriend handed me my walking papers because he wanted to spend time with his buds and live up the rest of college career. He's still kicking himself that one. Sometimes people break up simply because they are not compatible, or because they just don't have the same aspirations in life. Things change, people change. So unless she pointed out a serious character flaw that caused this metamorphosis of her feelings, then I see no reason for you to feel self conscious when you meet new people. See your newfound freedom as a blessing, not a curse, and use your free time to figure out yourself and your own personal issues. After all, the most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself.
So, I am a young single guy who just got a great job and now needs to buy my first car. Any suggestions on what I could buy that will attract the girls? If you ever make it up to Chicago I would love to be your tour guide. Go Bears! -- Phil, Chicago
Phil, first off, sorry about Da' Bears this past weekend. As for your question, congrats on purchasing your first vehicle since your parents bought you that sweet car-bed a few years back. Owning your own car and not having to plan your dates around the bus schedule is quite a liberating time in a young man's dating life. I, for one, am not the kind of girl who judges guys based on what they drive, even if it is a Dodge Stratus. However, if I am going to show any favoritism, it's going to be toward "vintage" cars since my daddy raised me on the "classics." My personal faves are the '67 Shelby GT 500 and the '72 Candy Apple Red Corvette Convertible. Nevertheless, as long as your model isn't made by Powerwheels and run on one of those huge nine-volt looking batteries, you should be alright. Just make sure whatever girls you do pick up with your hot wheels are in it for the right reasons, and aren't just interested for what's in your garage.