Posted: Wednesday December 6, 2006 11:07AM; Updated: Wednesday December 6, 2006 12:41PM
Shaun Alexander was a top-three pick in most fantasy drafts this season, but he's spent most of the year injured.
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Do you play fantasy sports? If so, how much of one's success in fantasy sports do you attribute to luck? How much skill would you say is involved in fantasy sports? Also, will we ever see you at a Miami Dolphins game since they play near your hometown? -- Dan D., Selden, N.Y.
I'm slowly but surely picking up on this fantasy sports thing. I'm actually second in my league right now, which upsets some of the fellas to no end. Sure, you can attribute a lot of fantasy sports to luck once the season gets going, but with any good gamble there are definitely ways to increase your odds. First of all, drafting a solid team is crucial. Do your research: find out their stats, injuries, weaknesses, etc, because if your draft stinks, you can pretty much kiss your season good bye. It's OK to take a gamble on a few rookies or dark horses who you think will have a breakout year, or be strong season finishers, but overall I'd stick to what's tried and true. Trades are another huge element. And paying attention to injury reports, starters and bye weeks is key. Once the picks and trades are made, the rest is in the hands of fate and your players. So, while the guys in my league may attribute their bad seasons to bad luck, I know that it takes more than luck to get your butt handed to you by a girl. It's called skill.
And yeah, I will definitely be catching a 'Fins game the next time I visit the "fam" in South Florida.
I know dating your ex-girlfriend's friend is a huge "no-no," but is there a time limit on that, or is it forever? I mean, things just didn't work out and you happen to get along magnificently with someone who happens to be her friend. What are the rules on this, especially in the long term? -- Johnnie, S.D.
I know this sounds completely cliché, but you should really try to consider the feelings of all those involved, including your own motivation for wanting to date her friend. If the breakup with the "ex" was amicable, then I see no reason why you can't simply ask for her feelings on the subject. She may tell you she is fine with it, especially if she has since moved on, or she may ask for more time. Regardless of her answer, do take it into consideration when you make your decision.
The crucial part to this whole scenario, however, is the level of friendship the two girls share. If they are just casual friends, then that's a bonus for you. If they were "BFFs," though, you could have another thing coming. After all, if there is one thing women do well, it's gossip. I guarantee in the time you and your ex spent together, your ex may have offered up some juicy details about your relationship to her sounding board. So odds are the friend will know way more about you than you do her. Should you still choose to attempt having a relationship with the friend, just remember that her friend was there before you, and will probably be there long after you are gone, so driving a wedge between them will only cause problems for yourself. In short, just think things through and be considerate of all parties involved, because the last thing you want to start is a war between friends.
Honestly, why is USC so damn good and why haven't you come down to watch the one of the top programs in college football? I mean if Palmer, Polamalu, Leinart, Reggie, LenDale and Jarrett can't get you to L.A., what will? -- Dave, Los Angeles
Hindsight is 20-20. Going into this season, I thought USC would take a big step back. Sure, they would be good because, well, if for no other reason, they are USC. But, losing the talent they did to the NFL draft, no one could have expected them to be the USC of old. However, I think John David Booty and the gang have more than proved themselves this year, despite losses to Oregon State and UCLA.
As for me venturing to the West Coast, I am still on a college kid's budget and airline tickets are not cheap, my friend. However, I definitely for see some trips out West in the future. I am in love with the scenery, the lifestyle and I'm a huge Angels fan. So the West Coast is definitely in my New Year's Resolution for 2007, if not sooner.
Do you think the ACC cried their eyes out because their championship was a flop this year? When Georgia Tech is your biggest draw, that ain't a good thing. -- Richard, Annapolis, Md.
If you would have told me at the beginning of the season that Wake Forest would meet Georgia Tech in the ACC Championship, I would have told you to call the weatherman to let him know hell has frozen over. However, I think they were more than worthy to play in the conference championship game. The ACC has proven it's not the powerhouse it used to be, but Georgia Tech and Wake Forest are pretty good.
I have been hanging out and talking to this girl for about five months. We work together, but not in the same building, and we talk through e-mail and on the phone almost every night. We hang out after work and mostly on the weekends, but never one on one. She broke up with her long-time boyfriend about three months ago. She tells me that she needs time to get over him. I do understand that and have tried to give her space and been there for her, but now I have fallen head over heels for this girl. How long should I let this go on? She tells me that she wants a relationship with me, but just not right now. I am willing to wait for her, but like I said it has been five months. Should I wait for six months or am I just getting played? -- Mark, Pittsburgh
There are a number of issues at hand here: 1) Her feelings for the ex. 2) Her feelings for you. 3) Interoffice dating.
It's perfectly natural for someone to still have feelings for their ex after only three months of separation, especially if the two of them had been together for a while. It's not like she can just turn the "off" switch on her feelings for him, so you're doing the right thing by giving her space. However, when she tells you that she needs time to get over him, it may also be an indicator of other things. Have you been completely honest with this girl about your feelings and the fact that you wish to pursue a relationship with her, or is she telling you this whenever you two are simply talking about her "moving on?" Regardless, I think you should both be honest about your feelings. If she is interested in having a relationship with you, then the two of you should take things slow, keep it at a friendship level, and let the details just sort themselves out. But if she is just saying this to you, and is only doing so because she is too nice to tell you she is not interested, then you may want to look elsewhere. Be a friend and help her sort through her baggage, but if she can't be straight with you about her feelings, then send her packing.