Posted: Wednesday March 21, 2007 11:20AM; Updated: Wednesday March 21, 2007 11:20AM
Jenn, I saw the video of your trip to my college, the University of Oregon. I was pumped to hear we got an A+ in all three of your categories. I'm so sorry we couldn't win against Arizona for you. Honestly, where do you think Oregon stacks up against the rest of the country?
Hmm, are we talking basketball, or just the college scene in general? As far as college hoops are concerned, I think the Ducks are more than capable at handling some of the best teams in the country. Sure, every team has their off days, but the Ducks have been fairly consistent this season, especially on their home court. The tourney, however, is a whole new ball game. Thus far, you guys have handled the pressure fairly well, but the competition certainly doesn't get any easier as the list of teams gets shorter. Oregon's game this Friday against UNLV will be the first real test the Ducks have faced in the tourney. I've had the pleasure of watching both of these teams on their home turf, and let me tell you, this game is not a layup for Oregon. The Ducks had some difficulty with defense and shooting toward the end of the season, but if they can establish themselves early on, I see no reason why they can't beat the Rebels. I think this will be the Sweet 16 game to watch, and given UNLV's run, the Rebels will not go quietly into the night.
As far as college scene goes, I was highly impressed with the campus and student life at University of Oregon. I know you're thinking, "Party scene in Eugene?" But honestly, the students were super hospitable, and really showed this Southern girl a good time. If you can get past the rainy Pacific Northwest weather, then Eugene is without a doubt one of the best college city's I have visited in my travels. We'll see once football season kicks off if other school's have what it takes to hang. Thanks again, Ducks.
I've been dating a girl for about two months, and I'm getting very mixed signals. On one hand, when we're together, we always have a great time and she gives me all of the signals that she's very interested in me. But on the days when we don't see each other, I'm always the one who has to call her and suggest plans. In the past couple of weeks, she has also made no effort to set time aside to see me, instead always choosing to hang out with her friends. We've gone from seeing each other three times a week to once a week. I thought she was losing interest, but then she told me that she wants to meet my parents, who don't live in state but frequently visit. I told her that I would introduce her during my parents' next visit (within the next week or two), but, in the meantime, she's been very slow to return my calls and always says she's too busy to talk or see me. When we do talk, though, she continues to ask about my parents and express her excitement to meet them. What gives?
Mixed signals aren't any good at baseball games, so why would they be in relationships? Sometimes it's good for people in relationships to have separate lives from one another, otherwise they would only want to strangle each other. While some girls are super clingy there are those, such as myself, that truly value our independence. She could be one of these types. However, if you are seriously interested in sharing a future with this girl, then maybe you should step up and tell her so. Maybe she is waiting on you to solidify the relationship, and feels that meeting your parents would take it to the next level. But, honestly, my gut feeling is this chick is just not as serious about commitment as you are, and just wants to have fun. So until one of you lays down the gauntlet and decides they want something more than a casual dating situation, I'd think twice about keeping your relationship exclusive. After all, you shouldn't make someone a priority who only sees you as an option.
Hi, Jenn. My boyfriend and I are a real-life Beauty and The Geek couple. We are polar opposites -- I'm a Hooters girl and Hawaiian Tropic model, and he's a total Mensa nerd. We met when he was tutoring me through my math and science courses. Although I never would have imagined it, this quiet, shy guy with cute dimples lit a fire in me, and I fell hopelessly in love! The problem is that my girlfriends don't approve. They think I can, and should, do better. They're nice to him whenever we're together, but their disapproval of our relationship has gotten annoying. What's worse is that my boyfriend can sense it, and I know he feels bad about it. My Mom and sisters initially felt the same way, but they've come to accept and adore him after seeing how happy he makes me. Why can't my friends do the same? I know they only want the best for me, so I don't want to shut them out. However, I don't want to lose a guy who is turning out to be the love of my life. How do I get my friends to give my man a fair chance?
Whose life are you living? Last time I checked, it was your relationship, not your girlfriends, so what does it really matter if they think you could "get better?" What is their definition of better? A pretty-boy clone who doesn't have much else to offer (but is fun to look at)? Please. Odds are you're a smart girl, and therefore are perfectly capable of making your own decisions. So why not live your life for YOU and not everyone else? Relationships are supposed to be about finding someone who makes you happy and who you genuinely enjoy spending time with, not someone who makes the better arm candy and makes for the better public persona. Tell your girlfriends to stop analyzing your relationship and get a meaningful one of their own. After all, there is more to life than being good looking.