What do you say
when your grown son tells you, "Nothing good has ever happened to me"?
If you're Marty Bezbatchenko, your heart cleaves like a coconut and you repeat
every motivational slogan you ever heard as a star quarterback. "If you get
knocked out, you get back up," recites Marty, who led Akron to the NCAA
Division II championship game in 1976. "I talk about PMA, for Positive
Mental Attitude, that winners adjust. I believe all that."
His first two
sons, Mike and Nick, were outstanding high school athletes in Tallmadge, Ohio.
But his youngest, David, was found at age five to have neurofibromatosis, an
often disfiguring disease that causes tumors to grow just beneath the skin.
David, fully grown
at 5'5", 135 pounds, dedicated himself to holding for the placekicker at
Tallmadge High. "He was very good at it," says Marty, "and he
enjoyed being part of a team." Just over a year ago, as a sophomore at
Bowling Green, David was told he had a brain tumor. Surgeons could remove only
55% of it, and the remainder seemed impervious to chemotherapy. And yet David
kept his PMA. He could hardly complain to his mother, Barb, who had breast
cancer. But he did tell his dad, in a moment of despair, "Nothing good has
ever happened to me."
It wasn't true.
David cherished the trips he and Marty took to see Ohio State play Michigan in
football. They'd go to Detroit to see the Pistons on Friday, the Buckeyes at
the Big House on Saturday and the Red Wings on Saturday night. Somewhere along
the line, Marty and David became each other's best friend. They so enjoyed
spending Saturdays and Sundays together in the fall watching the Buckeyes and
the Cleveland Browns on TV that they decided to also spend summer Tuesdays and
Sundays playing golf together, when David's chemo regimen would allow.
Last spring David
set three goals for himself: to make a birdie this summer, to break 100 next
summer and to get a hole in one "sometime in my lifetime." His dad told
him, "Keep playing, and you never know." Never mind that David is the
equivalent of a 40 handicap. "Golf is a getaway," he says. "It
takes my mind off everything else. On the golf course you have enough other
things to think about."
Like the 110-yard
par-3 5th hole at the Congress Lake Club in Hartville, Ohio. David got his
first birdie there, in June, and topped that two Sundays ago. Playing with
Marty and two other men, he punched an eight-iron low into the wind over the
bunkers and onto the green. The foursome on the next tee box held their fingers
just inches apart to indicate that David's Maxfli 2 was this close to the
David bent to pick
up his tee. When he looked up, that foursome was screaming, "It went in! It
went in!" Bedlam broke out on the 5th and 6th tee boxes. "Everyone was
hugging and high-fiving each other," says David. His father, goose-bumped
and teary-eyed, could barely plant his own tee to hit next. Marty was so pumped
he flew his ball 20 feet past the pin. Then it sucked back toward the cup and
dived in. It was Marty's second hole in one. His first was 16 years ago, on
David's seventh birthday.
In an instant the
entire course was convulsed in celebration, and the 5th tee box resembled a
ballfield following the final out of the World Series. "Unbelievable,"
says Marty. "That's all anyone could say." But then David, whose whole
life is about surmounting long odds, said, "It's not unbelievable, because
it just happened."
"So we all
decided to call it amazing," says Marty, who apologized to David for
following his hole in one with a hole in one of his own. "Dad," David
replied, "this makes it better. This is perfect."
Father and son
approached the flag together and found the two balls, practically conjoined.
Three hours later David was carding his first two-digit score, a 98. When he
and Marty floated into the locker room, they were greeted with a standing