For Scott the process has been more difficult. A few days after he started drinking, he attempted suicide, overdosing on pills prescribed by a psychiatrist. He has been sober since then, but he requires encouragement from many sources—Alcoholics Anonymous, family and a reading list dominated by tides such as Talking to Heaven and Remembering with Love.
"I have to believe Nils can see what's going on," Scott says. "I don't think that drinking myself to death is something he wants. There's a book that says people stay around after they die—that they show themselves in a gust of wind or a flicker in a fluorescent light. When things like that happen, I remember him and know that he would want me to get through this."